Marriage- if it's a destination of love, then why room is full with divorce applications!..

 

Forget about marriage...let's catch the deep root of every emotion - LOVE!❤️

It is an essential element that works as oxygen for every single soul... it shines for dark days... happiness for sad hearts.. and a cure for sick minds...💚

If any of us is out of reach of this element, consider yourself on a serious stage.

But what is changing this soulful Essence into a lifetaker poison....🗿

Why it has become a deadly virus that is Wrapping up every stage of age...🦍

Rich-Poor, Victorious-looser, man-woman, heroes-villains, angel-devils, flora, and fauna..

(Apologies if I missed any category)

All yearn for someone's unconditional love...even if someone is not a giver, he will be a taker...LOVE TAKER!🕵️

And unfortunately, Taker exists more than the giver in the world, and this is where war starts!...

Now keep aside this war, will talk about this later, come to the point without wasting time, and let's start a conversation about a couple who were perfectly in love with each other, got married, and now divorce application is under consideration....😢

Why??... Does love end after marriage? Or marriage is the last stage of love.. and we don't have any idea of further stages, so we get bored and give up on each other....????

And we start looking for another one for the same love relationship cycle....until we cross the 60s of age..🤷

Actually, we are far away from Love.

We consider attraction as love!...🤦

Our Happy beginnings start with attraction.

And the base of this attraction could be body, mind, lifestyle, words, or nature.

You can't name it Love until you know a person in and out and for that, you need to be ready to accept their flaws. Every person is a combination of good and bad, You cannot accept a person just by dreaming good, He can also be bad at some points. After all, he is a human being!...🤷

Let's suppose, you were attracted to a person with any of category.. and in the future, The person lost it by any kind of an accident...or you meet someone else better in that category...🙋

Will you stay with the same person? Ask yourself, most will say YES!...👰

But When it happens in real, your answer will be A BIG NO!..🙅

Suddenly a most futuristic man will wake up in you...and you start doing calculations.. and then 'OURS' will be changed into 'YOURS' and 'MINE'.❌

in other words, you'll show how self-centric you can be!..

On the contrary, if you choose to stay and find a way out while keeping your relationship safe, then you can consider yourself 'A lover'.👩‍❤️‍👨

That means, if you choose someone because of his caring nature, you won't start hating him if he stops caring.. you will try to sort things out..  you will share your views politely...you will try to know the reason and make some efforts mutually to make your relationship smooth.. but still, if it didn't work...you won't curse, and you won't pray a punishment for him...

Because when you had chosen that person, you were ready to accept his good and bad.

You respect his decision, you trust his decision and let him go happily!..

Now comes marriage...

Marriage is not a destination of Love. If you are about to begin your relationship on the condition of marriage, think again!

Marriage is a part of your love journey, don't make it the end point of love, and don't make it the last stage of love.

Marriage is all about commitments, promises to keep your love alive for the rest of your life and to keep your relationship alive for the rest of your life.

You are gonna be a prop for your partner in any kind of situation; you will listen, understand and guide your partner selflessly, and you will try to make him feel free from the burden of life.

Is it what we are doing?? No.

We are taking marriage as an authority to control a person to whom we are attracted.. that's why we want to start a relationship with the commitment of marriage, even if we don't know about the other sides of a person.

And then after a couple of months of happy marriage...when we come to know about the flaws of that person, we start being irritated..💔

"Omg! This is not the person I chose! I was unaware of your real face!"...

This kind of statement take place...and conflicts begin...😔

Because we were dreaming of a person with special characteristics...🥰

Not a person with good and bad!😣

Now you try to change him by forcing him, try to control him, want them to walk on your way, on your conditions, on your timings!..😒

I am gonna be harsh...but this is NOT love dear!...😐

I understand you are concerned about your and your loved one's future. 👏

But instead of forcing, instead of making conflicts, instead of putting your ego first, instead of breakups and looking for other attractive options...

Polish your relationship...your love...

Your loved ones..by efforts, dedication, understanding, love, smartness, open communication, politely sharing your views, by being selfless...❤️

Otherwise cover of marriage won't be enough to save your love, and your relationship 🙇

Some people commit without getting married and some cheat after getting married!...

Learn the difference!..